But before I do, I just want to say that I know how hard a time it is for you right now.
Other than a death of a loved one, a breakup can be one of the most emotionally painful experiences in your life.
The feelings of depression and loneliness can hit you hard during this time, so it's important that you try your best to stay strong amidst the darkness you are currently in.
The first thing you want to do is agree with the breakup.
Whenever I tell people this advice they think I'm literally crazy.
The reason you want to do this is because it takes a little bit of the power your ex has over you back on your side.
The person who ends a relationship is usually the person with all the power.
Therefore, if you agree with the breakup, your ex won't have so much power of you.
It will also show them that you're not 100% needy and desperate for them to be in your lives and if anything and are capable of living an even better life without them.
You may have already broken this rule.
You may begged, pleaded and micro-stalked your ex already.
If this is the case, all is not lost.
What you want to do is send them an email telling them that you are totally cool with the breakup and really appreciate your ex for doing it in the first place.
Tell them the last few weeks has really opened your eyes up and thank them for making that happen.
Lastly, tell them that maybe the two you can be friends again.
And that's that.
Next thing you want to do is get yourself emotionally back on your feet again.
What this means is that most people are emotional wrecks after a breakup, which is a huge turnoff to your ex.
What we want to do is get ourselves back on our feet in order to become a much more stable and attractive human being to not only our ex, but to the world.
I suggest spending more time with your friends and family, focus more of your energy on work and start working out much more.
This will allow you to take an emotional breather from the relationship and get you back to your old awesome self.
Once this occurs, you can then call your ex one time on the phone and try to meet up for coffee.
It's important that you don't call your ex more than once per week during this time because again, we don't want to come off as emotionally needy or desperate.
Once you meet up and can show your ex the attractive person they fell in love with in the first place, then you'll have a much better chance in how to win an ex back.