Health & Medical Self-Improvement

How to Achieve Your Big Goals With Small Steps

A friend of mine showed up this morning and proceeded to tell me how he and his mother had spent the morning hanging an antique clock on the kitchen wall.
He had other things that he thought he should be doing, like getting his new business going or finding a job, but he choose to spend the time with his mother, doing a bit of decorating in her new house.
He described how great this was and how much fun they had.
He was very passionate about the whole process, but as soon as the word work came up his eyes dulled over.
He said he would rather be doing this kind of stuff all the time and that getting a job would limit his freedom.
This got me thinking, the little things add up in life, but they are often overlooked.
I notice this when I am trying to avoid doing the big things in my life, the things that make the money, that are required of me if I want to enjoy the standard of living that I have.
I really like doing the little things in life and the reason is that within a short space of time, I can meet some pretty basic needs.
I usually accomplish something and have a purpose that after a couple of hours I can say to myself, look what I have done.
It feels good and I can tick it off my list of things to do.
The list can sometimes look long and daunting, but by breaking it into little things that I can manage, soon I'm ticking stuff off and the list get shorter and shorter until it's gone.
How great is that; my head is clear and I have achieved great success and accomplishment? Another thing happens to me on the way.
I move into the flow and live in the present moment, which is even more important than the success of getting through the list.
This is where the joy is in my life, it becomes a present-moment existence and I am no longer striving to accomplish my purpose.
It seems to become fairly effortless and I am so involved that I lose track of time.
I become clear and alive, until I come out of that space and then start to think about things that I need to do.
It is then a past/future experience and does not have the same grounded, connected feeling.
It reminds me a little of the car ad on TV that has an English guy driving his sports car, thinking how wonderful it is and then he starts to think about what is for supper and the moment is lost.
The key to this is little steps that I can accomplish on a continual basis.
The great thing about little steps is, they're little and usually do not require a huge amount of new information to be learned and even if it does require lots, I do a little chunk that I know that I will be able to handle.
An example would be the making of this blog, every day I do one thing with it or learn one new thing about WordPress.
Sometimes it leads me in a new direction and I just go with it, because I'm interested in it, but for the most part I stay on topic and make notes of the things that I want to check out later, otherwise my thoughts become scattered and I land up feeling frustrated and not really accomplishing anything.
Sometimes I may not even want to do what I have to do, but knowing that this is only going to last for a little while makes it much more acceptable to me.
I take it to the next stage and find three things that I like about the work or situation and am grateful for, this helps to turn it into a positive experience.
The way I break larger stuff down into small projects is to use a system called mind-mapping, there are books on the subject and also mind-mapping software that can be very useful for this purpose.
The way it works is like a flowchart that I can add new boxes and can connect them together.
On the software version, I can add URL's, notes and a bunch of other stuff that makes it very useful.
At the end I have a road map to get where I am going, which makes it a lot easier to get there and even if I get lost I can look at the map and get back on track again.

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