rather superficial reasons.
Here's a fun little test that will reveal to you the answer to the question, "Am I being too picky?" Take a look at the last 10 to 20 'Candidates' who've crossed your path.
People you've dated, people you've selected through an online service, or just people you've met through your world whom you found interesting, attractive, and date-worthy.
Go ahead - make the list.
And start keeping this list and adding to it into the future.
Every person you find date-worthy...
write his name on your list.
Secondly, note by that person's name if he/she was also interested in YOU.
Did this person pursue you? Was he/she attracted to you? Did this candidate "go for" you? OK, here's the tough part.
Now you've got to do the math.
I say, if the percentage of people on your "hot list" who also go for YOU is greater than 50%, then YIPPEE, you're on track.
If, however, a small percentage of your targeted candidates are interested in and attracted to you, then...
we've got a problem.
Tough as it is to accept, if the math shows you that less than 25% of your targeted date-worthy candidates are also interested in you, then it's possible, um, well, likely actually that you're being too picky.
What to do about it? You've got two choices: 1) Do some serious strategic and proactive marketing to better your chances in our highly competitive romantic culture (join dating services and singles clubs and be proactive, develop your flirting skills, meet lots and lots of people.
) 2) Re-evaluate how you are doing your selecting, wrestle with and broaden your search criteria.
A general rule of thumb to follow is - if you're not averaging a better than 50% "Yes Factor" for the men or women you're targeting, then your matchmaker here says you're being too selective and limiting yourself too much to be able to expect success.
Homework assignment: Make your long list of the criteria you're seeking in your mate.
Go ahead, brainstorm, and have some fun with it.
Then take a long walk and come back to that list.
Isolate the Top Three Critical Criteria.
Tough? You bet, but so important.
Keep this short list handy, and notice that as you go through the dating process it might just change on you.
If the guy/gal you're considering has all three of your Top Three Critical Criteria, then I say, when in doubt, GO FOR IT.
Meet this new person.
Still in doubt? Meet again.
Still don't know? Meet one more time.
We gals have the ability to fall in love over time, for the right reasons.
If the CRITICAL stuff lines up, then I'd suggest (and so would your mama) saying Yes to meeting and exploring the possibilities with those who meet your critical criteria.
That magical thing called human bonding doesn't even begin to show up until date number three.
Be willing to stretch on the issues of lesser importance (height, hair issues, age, income, etc.
Keep the heart and the eyes open, or heck, blindfold yourself! I often wonder if sightless singles have an advantage in today's media crazed world.
And be willing to be surprised as to whom He or She just might turn out to be!