(1) Cutting off All Contact
Many people have the wrong idea and think that showering their ex with affection and attention is the way to win back their ex heart. This is so wrong. Actually you need to break off the contact for a period of a month. Give him or her some room to deal with everything going on in their life. They need some time to sort out their mind and if they still miss you which also gives you time to focus on you.
(2) Don't Sit Around
The worst thing you can do is lay about. Instead get up and take some action. If you want your ex back, you can't do it from your couch. You have to fix the issues that plagued your relationship and the couch isn't made for fixing your problems. Only you can do this.
(3) Seek Out Loved Ones
Get together with people who care about you whether this is your family or your friends or even both. Spend as much time with them as you can. Their support can build up your emotional needs and give you power to face what has just occurred. You don't want to turn to them for all your depressing needs. People can only take so much misery.
(4) Fix Your Appearance
Try to remember that life does go on. For that reason, look your best as often as you can. Don't sit idly by watching life go on without you. Think about the things you can do for yourself that can make you feel better. If that means getting a new hairdo, do it. Once, you have done this get out there and party even if you don't feel like it. The attention you get from others can help boost your own confidence and self worth. It may even spark some jealousy in your ex if he or she sees you acting happy.
(5) Change Your Attitude
Only you, not your ex, can change what you find wrong inside. If you have to change your personality to win him or her back, then do it. Remember that if nothing has been changed, your relationship is unlikely to work out the second go around. These changes will need to be permanent too.
(6) Work on Your Relationship
Even if you got that second chance you wanted, you have to work on your relationship to see it through. Those things that plagued the relationship the first go will have to be gone the second time around. While most issues can be seen, others are still hidden. You and your ex will have to support one another to get back together if you want to make the second chance to work.