Health & Medical Self-Improvement

Anger - A Major Cause Of Depletion

Normally it is thought that the target of someone's anger, in the case of the target being a person, is the one who will suffer.
Rarely does the person who is angry realise how they are harming themselves through their own anger.
Whether someone is angry with another person or other people or whether the anger is sparked by a certain situation has no real bearing on the harmful effects of the anger on the angry person.
In fact in general, health wise you could be better off being the target of someone's anger, as long as it doesn't get physical of course, than being the person who is angry.
Anger is a serious form of stress and depletes the physical body of all sorts of important building blocks such as minerals and vitamins.
It puts the physical heart, arteries and all other blood vessels under a lot of strain.
And of course the nervous system is being put on full alert.
These are probably only a few of the negative physical effects of anger on the body.
By now it is firmly established in the medical community that we do not only consist of a physical body and the non-physical aspects of our being are also very much affected by anger outbursts.
If you one day could do yourself the favour of taking a moment to become conscious of how you and your body are feeling while you are experiencing anger you will understand what is being said here.
By raising your awareness you could really help yourself in experiencing better health.
For example, suppose you find yourself in a situation that could trigger you to become angry, by operating with greater awareness you will give yourself a chance to take a step back and detach yourself from the situation.
Once you have found that detached moment ask yourself if you really need to become angry and if the anger would serve you in both resolving the situation in a satisfactory manner and in your overall health and well-being.
Usually anger does not serve you for either.
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing and very health giving for all parties involved.
But even if you do not want to think about forgiveness, just by contemplating the damage you are doing to yourself during angry outbursts you might be able to help yourself to keep or regain your cool and not being so badly affected by the situation.
"Ah, but I cannot help getting angry", you say, "in a situation like that how could I not".
True this is what we are conditioned to believe, however, take some time to sit with this and contemplate it.
Is it really true? Are you absolutely certain that you do not have a choice? Even if the anger crept up on you and you were being angry before you realised it, would it not be possible that the moment you became aware of this you would have the choice to either continue being angry or start considering the benefits for you personally of not being angry? How effective would you be at correcting a situation or dealing with a person without the anger? Could it be that by being calm and firm you would have a better chance of resolving the situation more effectively and quicker? See, it is possible to stand up for what you believe in, in a strong manner without the need for anger.
Try it, you will be pleasantly surprised.
To un-condition yourself from reacting in anger takes awareness and repetition.
The main thing is to set your intention and to congratulate yourself each time you notice your own anger and exercise your choice.
Forgiveness is a key ingredient as it will not help to beat yourself up over not controlling an angry outburst.
Easy does it and over time you will become more effective at responding to situations rather than letting situations trigger you in reacting in anger.
The more you practise raising your awareness by staying or becoming conscious of your own anger reflexes the sooner you will arrive at a strong calm inner state that is able to deal with challenging situations in an extremely effective way while keeping your body healthy and relaxed.
Remember this process can take some time and you might find that even after having been really good at it something might come along and still trigger an unconscious anger reaction from you and that is okay as long as you are willing to learn from it and to forgive yourself.
Even the most enlightened people experience anger at times.
It is just better if you can reduce how often you experience anger without suppressing it of course.
Is anger normal? Yes, but there are different levels at which to experience it.
Meaning that you can be angry but are able to stay detach from it at a core level whereby it does not affect you so deeply which limits the negative effects on your health.
Plus being able to let it go quickly rather than reliving it long after the situation has passed will help your well-being also a lot.

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